reconnect with the pulse of our lives: September 2013

Thursday, September 12, 2013

Pre-swim blog

When we were younger, our definition of fear is a bit different from that of now. I remember watching this movie where the ghost originated from a dead girl corpse buried in a cement wall. This is a Malay movie. And afterwards my senses went haywire. It's as if my hearing was amplified to pick up almost anything and translate them to ghost whispers.

I also hate going up lifts alone at night. Still do. There was this one telemovie where a guy who's about to get off the lift suddenly see a freaking ghost once the door opened.

The surprise manner of these incidents in the movie coupled with the then visualiastion of ghosts is pretty traumatic for a 7 year old.

As we grow up, It wasn't ghost anymore. I fear making mistakes that could lead to me getting spanked. And to be honest I do get a way with a lot i think. I was pretty active when i was a kid (told by mom) and think I still am. I would always do things that would invite rage among even the nicest parents. I was just curious and most of the time I would act upon that curiousity which resulted in an inconvinient moment for everyone. And of course followed by good ol malay spanking.

It worked though. Fear is like an invisble leash when we were kids. It limits me to not venture into more trouble. So with fear, the do's and the painful don'ts are pretty much clear.

When I was little I didn't know that fear would not just limit a person but could also consume and transform a person. For me fear will go away. It is not in people. fear is ghosts. fear is the thin sturdy cane or a cloth hangar or belt. I have tom make sure i behave and everything would be allright.

Then it changes.

At school. Fear becomes different. Even druing my time at school, we fear not being able to socialize. The art of getting along when we were pre-teens were as complicated as when we were teens. mom and dad is not there anymore to babysit you. the do's and don'ts are even more complicated. you are bound by rules. And you have to mingle some more.

To fit in you would have to be special. Special means your attribute as a person must stand out. This is how kids label each other. Once you are labelled a piece of shit, it's going to be a tough child hood.

I consider my self lucky since there were not much things that you can impress anyone with at that time. Everyone likes gaban or suria perkasa hitam. everyone plays in mud. the rich the poor. All the same. That's how you basically impress your firends with whatever skill set you have. you do what they do. If not, you'll fear you'll be an outcast etc.

Sports would be a safe one. By playing sport you would eliminate the fear of not getting along because sports naturally encourages participitation. Then you'd get along and if you get good at it you'd even become popular. But at such a young age everyone pretty much suck at sport.

ying would not be complete without yang. Those who despise sports would probably be into music or some other subjective form of activity. They are a pretty niche bunch at school and usually considered cool.

At this juncture, fear takes on a new life form and whole new meaning. This is where it can limit or diminish a kid potential just because he want's to fit in. I could say to the majority of kids fitting in is kinda scary. To adults too.

How bout those who are caught in limbo. You're not smart or dumb. Doesn't play sport or other activities. These type usually spend years looking for groups to fit in.

I would probably be a depressed kid then if all my friends had handphones ihones and shit and game consoles and stuff. It's a tough act to follow. Etiher you have it or not.

Now... you'r afraid of ghosts and always anxious about fitting in. Is this as good as it gets? no.

Once you become an adult, fear means responsibility. This is where we're afraid for things to go fucked and not going our way.

Imagine, I literally risk my life every morning caused by fear of clocking in late for work. There is something terribly wrong with that. You're not afraid of a car crash but you're afraid of a tiny console that says "thank you you;re late" after you pressed your finger on it.

I also see a lot of highly paid executives who's afraid to make decisions. People hold back their comments in meeting to not hurt other people feeling.

Fear now turns into perception. Slowly you realize .... fear won't go away. It exists because you let it exists. It is how you deal with it that makes a difference.

So fear transformed from something visually horrible to physical pain, to emotional pain.And the funny thing is, responsibility is a good thing and we're afraid to commit cause we're afraid we might be fucked. Silly me for thinking fear would go away just like all them ghosts by the end of a movie.

If that's the case, forever we are limited and live in fear. Or live with fear. which ever.

There were times at a socially awkward events where I would say .. I'll pick ghosts over what's happening now anytime..

Monday, September 09, 2013

Post kinabalu 2013

don't see this everyday

Working out after kinabalu is limited to only swims for the past week. Main muscle groups still sore. This week goal is to build up on the run for SCKLM and to increase bike distance. Swim training will proceed as usual. Still looking for the best routes in Putrajaya.

Still few months left for training. Currently, I just want to get the hang of the training schedule and all. Want to see whether it is sustainable and to see how it effect other things that's going on.

Busy months ahead:

1) 29 Sept 2013 - SCKLM 21 KM

2) 27 Ocotber 2013 - Power Man - 11km run - 60km bike - 11km run

3) 3 November 2013 - Nusajaya Triathlon - Olympic distance

Speaking of training, I must say I am quite surprised with how things turned out for Prinze Basketball Team. The minimum was to at least reach the paly offs stage which we manage to do last year. We just missed the cut off by head-to-head record. We trained but I guess the other teams either trained harder or played better. On a good day I think we might turn some of the losses into wins. But it was just not meant to be. Everyone tried hard but that's how it is. Looking forward to next season.

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at the end we fell short. but good times were shared.

On a more sour note, the oil price hike has caused some concern among the rakyats. And it was right after merdeka which was also a hot topic.

I think just like my sore muscles, it will take time for Malaysia to recover from GE 13. Our mind is still sore with the result, unanswered questions, concerns on issues raised which i think some of them are undeniably have merit to be debated. Once we've recover, probably then we can move forward. To continue to fight for causes and/or proceed with what was planned to achieve goals that was set. Either way, I hope we Malaysians turn out ok in the end.

Friday, September 06, 2013

Mount kinabalu 2013

I think I've been wanting to go up Mt. Kinabalu and expressed my interest few times but somehow it didn't materialize. But then, when a chance to go up the higehst mountain in SEA turned up, we seized the chance. It was a family trip mooted by my father in law and the destination could not have been more perfect.

Summary:

1) Est. RM300 - round trip flights (KL-KK) 30 August - 2 September 2013

2) Est RM700 - guide, breakfast day 1, dinner, supper, breakfast Day 2, accomodation, certificate/fee

3) Est RM150 - worth of Equipments + food/drinks

4) 8 Power gels + 4 mueseli bar

5) Est 2.5 Litres of water

6) 2 Days 1 Night Trip

7) 9 am from Timpohon

8) Est 6 hours to Laban Rata

9) 2.30 am from Laban Rata

10) Est 3 hours to summit

11) Est 2 hours back to Laban Rata